ROLE OF PARENTS

Parent and Player Agreement

The Crossfire Select Soccer Club has a zero-tolerance policy for unacceptable behavior exhibited by parents and/or players on the sidelines. Players and parents both signed a Code of Conduct Agreement at the beginning of the season.

The Crossfire Select BOD, as well as coaches, expect these agreements to be followed at all times, whether at a practice or a game. Review the parent and player agreement.

Parental Role in Youth Sports

Bruce Brown, a motivational speaker on pro-active coaching, describes four key parental roles in sports. We strive to provide an atmosphere of support, sportsmanship, and encouragement.

Review the following four guidelines to help maximize your child’s experience:

  1. Practice Objectivity: Soccer is a fast contact sport in a confined space, and it can be perceived very differently depending on team affiliation. Watch a game where you don’t know any players — you may see things differently.
  2. Model Appropriate Behavior: Avoid sideline yelling and negative reactions. You are a role model for your child.
  3. Focus on the Team: Avoid putting the spotlight solely on your child during games. Soccer is a team sport.
  4. One Instructional Voice: Allow your child to take coaching instruction from their coach. Encourage and support, but leave coaching to the coach.

Hundreds of college athletes were asked:

“What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?”
The overwhelming response: “The ride home from games with my parents.”

When asked what parents said that made them feel great and amplified their joy, the overwhelming response was:
“I love to watch you play.”

This survey spanned decades and was led by two former coaches who became strong advocates for prioritizing the player’s experience.

A successful experience for the athlete requires strong communication between the parent, athlete, and coach. When both adults work together for the benefit of the athlete, the athletic experience becomes extremely positive. Parents must recognize the fine line between support and interference. Above all, everyone must remember that the needs of the kids come first.